Episodes 151-160

 The coaches kick off this week’s conversation talking about diet – what are you eating and how does that connect with your overall health?  What they identify is a 70-20-10 rule… the equation to being healthy.  Of course, they circle around to make the analogy to business... what is the 70-20-10 rule for your business?  What should be taking up 70% of your focus?  And what other 2 concepts are a MUST when you think about dedicating the remaining 20% and 10% of your time?  And finally, SYSTEMATIZING comes up… the best practices for leveraging SYSTEMS in your business and in your life so you can show up and hit the ball out of the park with things you are already great at. 

 Are You a Different Person Depending on Who You're With?  Hmmm this is a good one…  The coaches get into discussions about authenticity this week, and the concept of integrating our natural selves with our work and other aspects of our lives.  Are you aware of this for yourself?  Do you act differently depending on who you’re with?  Is it a strength to be fluid in our personality?  A weakness?  How do you think about these things?  The coaches incorporate this into a secondary conversation about time… and about a higher purpose.  Enjoy! 

 What does it mean to heal?  To expand?  To grow?  Really… if you HAD to put words to these definitions, how would you actually describe these concepts?  What is your definition?  Your process?  How do you know when you’ve been successful them?  The coaches talk about their different process to arrive at the same place:  getting into state.  Repetition is the mother of skill.  And like Coach Nick says, “everyone’s got a different version”.   What is yours?  We’d love to hear from you – let us know some tips, tricks, and processes that work for you. 

 What does it mean to heal?  To expand?  To grow?  Really… if you HAD to put words to these definitions, how would you actually describe these concepts?  What is your definition?  Your process?  How do you know when you’ve been successful them?  The coaches talk about their different process to arrive at the same place:  getting into state.  Repetition is the mother of skill.  And like Coach Nick says, “everyone’s got a different version”.   What is yours?  We’d love to hear from you – let us know some tips, tricks, and processes that work for you. 

 Coach Jon Zieve is back!  And we’re jumping right into a very important topic today – approaching emotionally charged conversations, particularly around the topics of diversity, equity, and inclusion.  Throwback to episode #99 “Crucial Conversations” where Coaches Jon and Josh reference the book “Crucial Conversations; Tools for Talking When Stakes are High” by Grenny-Patterson-McMillan-Switzler-Gregory and discuss hot-button topics like gun control and abortion.  Consider this episode - #157 – as take 2 on another emotionally charged conversation.  What we coaches ask you to pay particular attention to in this episode is not so much the content of the conversation – although that’s extremely important too – but the way in which we interact with each other, particularly when we diverge on our opinions and viewpoints.  What you’ll notice is – and this is framed in the beginning of the episode –that our focus in the conversation is NOT to convince the other person of our own viewpoints (not a “winnable” game).  What we focus on is trying to hear and understand each other at a deeper level (quite often by asking questions), and attempting to articulate our viewpoint so that we our understood at a deeper level (a “winnable” game).    What if we all agreed to approach these conversations with an intention to understand each other better vs. trying to prove we are right?!  Think about that the next time you enter into an emotionally charged conversation – let us know how it goes!  We’d love to hear from you. 

 Sophie Coulthard is the co-founder of AxioGrow, a platform that helps companies to identify, nurture and grow human potential throughout the entire career journey.   At the heart of the platform is a quick, online assessment based on a value-science called Axiology.  Having developed a keen interest in Axiology, Sophie joined the board of The Hartman Institute to support their efforts in 'changing the world for the better' through Axiological theory and application.  Sophie also hosts leadership and wellbeing workshops, and has a particular interest in how wellbeing impacts on work performance.  Outside of work, she's found a passion in dog training and can often be found in Wimbledon Common with her dog Billy or discovering new brunch spots with her fiancé. 

 Maybe you’ve heard the terms “Easy - Hard” and “Hard - Easy”.  This is the concept that making the easy decision now will make your life harder later; and vice versa… making the hard decision now will make your life easier later.  Is delayed gratification worth the squeeze?  Is it worth the sacrifice?  We coaches take a fresh perspective on this concept with our conversation this week.  Must we frame delayed gratification as a sacrifice?  “Don’t let your brain stop solving for the optimal; we can have multiple things at once.” 

 Who are we?  Labels and titles are interesting, aren’t they?  Take it from Brent Perkins, a CEO of 12 years.  (See what we did there?!)  It’s interesting how much we start to believe the stories that come with labels and titles.  But who are we, really?  And how much control do we have over the stories we believe?  Brent applies this principal to dealing with pain:  “The further you tighten the screws of control, inevitably it always blows up in your face.”  Check out our full episode to hear Brent talk about his perspectives on pain, and the concept of SURRENDING.  These principals come together in his newly released book, Papercuts:  The Art of Self-Delusion.  Papercuts: The Art of Self-Delusion, opens the door to the depths of what free will actually is. The agency we each have over how we interpret life’s experiences and the stories we end up telling ourselves. This is a wake-up call. A prayer. A humble request to embrace choice and unlock the innate ability we each possess to create our experiences and craft our journeys. We are the artists of our lives and we are so powerful!  You can buy Brent’s book HERE.    And you can follow Brent on social media here:  IG/FB/Twitter: @3xBold TikTok: @3xBold.com YouTube: @bold-yq6bv LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brentrper... 

 Do you ever think about seasons of your business?  Those times where you need a “blitz” – this might be Spring.  You are planting seeds and on the hunt for growth.  You have experienced overwhelm and it’s time to say ‘no more’; time to slow down.  You have entered Winter.  A time for repair.  A time for reflection.  Perhaps the greatest value of knowing the seasons of your business is prepping for the season that’s coming.  If I know I am about to enter Summer – a season of ‘MASSIVE ACTION’ – perhaps I can prepare by blocking my calendar with more “ME TIME” knowing I will need to balance my high-action days with recovery and repair time for myself. 

 The best way to predict the future is to create it.  So how do we do that?  If we don’t actively “program” what our mind thinks about, it’s scary to think about what the mind defaults to.  Fear.  Doubt.  Uncertainty.  What if…  These are the symptoms of being in survival mode.  When you’re in survival mode, you cannot be in creator mode.  This is where the power of questions come in.  What questions are you asking yourself daily?  Are you not aware?  Perhaps you might explore what your default questioning is… and then decide if there is a better question you want to be asking yourself.  The beautiful thing is your mind will answer whatever question you ask.  THIS is the power of questions.    We may not need better answers.  We may only need to ask better questions! 

 The #1 problem facing successful people today is the Tyranny of the Urgent.  The more capable we prove ourselves to be, the more opportunities there are… and the more that is demanded of us.  So what do we do – what’s the solution?  As soon as we find the ceiling of complexity, we must rediscover the floor of simplicity!  We say “rediscover” because it is a cyclical process.  What are the tangible and actionable things that will take our business to the next level?  These answers change with time.  To get back to SIMPLICITY is a superpower.  Stress goes away.  Doesn’t that sound nice?